It's important to remember that it is an exciting time for your student. While your life at home may become quieter with their absence, students' lives at college are about to become a lot fuller, especially during the orientation period before the reality of studies, social pressure and a touch of home sickness kicks in.
A transition to college leaves a huge hole in the daily life of the parents. It is us parents who are challenged almost as much as the young adults we are sending away, saying goodbye to, not having around in what may now feel an "empty" house. It suddenly change the daily routines we lived with for 18 years. And if we have more than one child it's the first and last to send away to college that are the hardest transitions to cope with.
It helps to recognize that this isn't a permanent goodbye and that both we, as parents, and the young adult we are sending away to this new adventure in life called "independence", have been prepared for...actually lived with over the last couple of years when researching, visiting and applying for the college he/she now is off to.
There is a wide range of emotions students and parents may feel on this day: anxiety, sadness, a sense of being overwhelmed, joy—are all normal and part of the process.
What is the single most important thing a parent should do at this time to benefit their student?
Send the message that you know that this will be an exciting time for your student and that you have confidence that he or she will ably handle the challenges that come with being a college student and with being away from home.
What should parents do to help make this transition go smoothly?
How do you as parent deal with the "empty nest" feelings you no doubt will experience once you arrive home after dropping off your child? Does it change your relationship with your spouse? Do you need to change in order to adjust, become involved in other things now when your child's everyday presence and experiences are no longer available for you to experience and for them to share? Is it time to reflect on who you are, what you value and what your passion and purpose is now when one of your role as a parent suddenly, and dramatically, has changed?
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